How do you talk with someone on your team about a mistake without making them feel defensive? The skill is being able to bring your feedback in context — not so much the words you use but the place from which they come. It’s simpler than it sounds. Think of one person at work you need to go talk to. Run through these questions in your mind before you do.
Being able to name and navigate these background dynamics is the most effective way to create a personal work environment — by, paradoxically, depersonalizing frustration and conflict.
Do they have a contribution to the stuck dynamic? Do you? What about the culture you’re both a part of?
Yes, yes, and yes.