The Authenticity Trap

“Well, that’s just who I am.

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”No. That’s who you were.

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Right up to this moment it may have been true. Right before you got that feedback it may have been a reasonable self-perception. Not anymore.

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Someone who cares about you — imperfect as they surely are and flawed as their delivery may have been — is trying to tell you that you’re better than who you thought you were.

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Are you the type of person who attacks the messenger? Or are you the type of person who listens, who internalizes that new information and acts on it?

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That’s who you are.